You Have To Learn To Fail Before You Learn To Succeed
There is an old adage comparing successful professionals to amateurs. The professional has failed more times than the new individual has even tried. This concept is true in sports, in artistic endeavors like stand-up comedy or theater, in sales, in occupations like teaching, law, and contract work.
The truth is, whether the interests of your child tend toward the hands-on or the mental, they are going to have to fail miserably trying to understand and get good at what they do before they succeed. Unfortunately, helicopter parenting is setting modern generations up for crushing failure that doesn’t lead to success through the “entitlement” approach that is being used by many authorities now. Everybody gets a trophy today.
Everybody wins, nobody has to feel the crushing blows of inadequacy. Parents practically flap their arms to remain afloat as they monitor their child’s growth, progress, and advancement. They’ll be the first to rebuff a naughty child on the playground, or contend with an educator about their child’s performance in school. Oftentimes they’ll take the side of their child when in point of fact their child has been an instigator.
A child who never learns how to deal with failure will bring that ignorance into adolescence and adulthood. Little tasks that simply require practice–like cooking–may be forever abandoned because of one or two failed attempts. Helicopter parenting ends up limiting a child’s scope. In the nineties, it wasn’t out of the ordinary to see eleven and twelve year olds out riding their bikes miles and miles from home.
Today that sight’s growing less common–and in some cases for good reason; society’s decline brings many unwelcome characters from the shadows. But at the same time, a child needs to learn to stand on their own two feet. When they don’t, they themselves have the propensity to become that unwelcome influence among peers.
Helping At-Risk Youth
Sometimes the solution for helicopter parenting is finding an academic boarding school with experts in therapeutic learning and mental health techniques. Turning Winds has helped many teens between thirteen and eighteen recover their ability to succeed by teaching them how to accept defeat, and not let it push them out of the game forever.
Through hands-on activity and a five-to-one student-to-teacher ratio, students at Turning Winds get individualized help and go on to lead successful lives. To learn more about our program please give us a call at: 800-845-1380